When it comes to the subject of patriarchy, the great irony is that most of, both its “defenders” and detractors, are not only not living in an actual patriarchal society, but are promoting the judgment that occurs when a society is no longer patriarchal.
Because God’s order for society is holistic, a man has a natural political jurisdiction over his wife who demands of him protection in return. This order is also a natural protection over their marriage and children and, as an extension, is a protection of a free society. Likewise, a wife who has a meek nurture towards her husband and their children is what nurtures society. As an extension of her husband’s authority, she is a facilitator of the family’s purposes and liberty, and is a catalyst for societal preservation and sanctification.
These attributes are intrinsic to an anarchist society. Anarchism does not entail that either husband or wife are allowed to act of their own accord in some lawless chaos. To do so would undermine relationship roles and break down the order of the family, putting each of its members in danger of going into civil bondage. The husband must rule well in order to accumulate capital, provide that capital to his family, and leave an estate for his progeny. The wife must genuinely receive her political coverture in enthusiastic submission in order to capably strengthen the political unit of the family. This is a key element to the prosperity and welfare of free families, as is the purpose of God.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies [‘one flesh’, body politic]. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother [their jurisdiction], and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” (Ephesians 5: 22-33)
This is a description of one divine corporation (matrimony) being compared to another divine corporation (the government of God). The network of servant ministers are called out from the congregations of families, and operate entirely in accordance with Jesus Christ’s ordinances, under his sole jurisdiction. When they act according to their own will, or the will of another, they are no longer Christ’s body and cannot enjoy the covering of his jurisdictional authority. Christ esteemed these servants who walk in the pattern of his character and footsteps so much, that he willingly died and laid down his life so that they may witness an example of the sort of dedicated charity that was expected of them in serving the congregations of the Lord. So too are husbands expected to cherish their wives and lay down their lives in order to provide for and protect them so that they do not have to go under the providence and protection of civil magistrates. Likewise, wives are expected to submit to the wills of their husbands as though they were his own body, because they are one body at common law. The political authority that a man has over his wife only seems like an oppressive and dehumanizing prospect to a bad wife, but if a husband selflessly loves, dutifully honors, and carefully cherishes his wife, a good woman will be humbled to act in his will as her husband is humbled to act according to God’s will. This notion of coverture is expounded upon here.
The only way for women to abandon the coverture of their husbands, is to go and become covered by authoritative government. In a free society, wives are under authority of their husbands. In a civil society, they are under the authority of human civil bureaucracies. To reiterate: in order to try and become “equal” to their husbands, they have to first become civil slaves. To pursue an egalitarian relationship, they have to become a legally separate person from their husbands, which means they are no longer one flesh with their husbands. They are no longer in matrimony, but are instead married under false gods, by the power invested by the municipality of wherever through an adulterous contract between three parties: the man, the wife, and the civil father that gives them away in marriage and incorporates their union. “Marriage is a civil contract to which there are three parties – the husband, the wife and the state.” (Appellate Court of Illinois, NO. 5-97-0108: Van Koten v. Van Koten. 154 N.E. 146.)
“…When two people decide to get married, they are required to first procure a license from the State. If they have children of this marriage, they are required by the State to submit their children to certain things, such as school attendance and vaccinations. Furthermore, if at some time in the future the couple decides the marriage is not working, they must petition the State for a divorce. Marriage is a three-party contract between the man, the woman, and the State.” (Linneman v. Linneman, 1 Ill. App. 2d 48, 50, 116 N.E.2d 182, 183 (1953), citing Van Koten v. Van Koten, 323 Ill. 323, 326, 154 N.E. 146 (1926).)
In a patriarchal society, a wife is already equal with her husband in all the ways that matter. The man may have authority and final say, but as they are one flesh, her role includes participating in the decision-making process. The husband must be culpable for the actions made as one flesh, as Adam was confronted for Eve’s actions in the Garden of Eden, but the wife must help him make wise decisions which is necessary for them to take dominion over the earth together. A truly Biblical marriage, in accordance with the principles of coverture and headship, is more egalitarian than even egalitarians imagine they desire marriage to be, and this definition of marriage is a necessary component to a literal Christian society. There is nothing more egalitarian than being one flesh. The complaints against this are only a strawman against God’s design.
Anarchism only means the preservation of the family and society by partaking in no social contracts with ruling men, where men must give up their rights and power of choice to Benefactors who exercise authority who thereby determine what individuals can and cannot do both without and within the family. This is the essence of statism.
Statism means giving the government the power of the state (the family), by rejecting its God-given liberty, equity and power of choice. Anarchism means that the family becomes ‘the state’ by keeping its liberty, equity and power of choice. Separating the government from the state is repentance unto anarchism.
The state has an order through the family structure. The government has order through a network of ministers who possess no equity, but only the desire to serve the state through called-out service and redistributing the charity of the state. These orders remain separate in a free society.
The family unit is the foundation for the state in a free society. It is patriarchal, but it is not brutish. When patriarchy becomes tyranny, the family fails and then society collapses. It is in the man’s best interest to husband and father well. If he does not, through sloth or pride or other sin, the efficacy of his family fails. And his family goes under the power of human government through civil relationships by legal contracts. There is good news, however. The Gospel of God introduces a message of redemption from the death of civil bondage to the life of liberty.